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Whoever came up with this phrase anyway? I have always wondered and here is what I found:
In his 1965 article “Death and the Midlife Crisis” for the International Journal of Psychoanalysis, psychologist Elliot Jaques coined the term “midlife crisis,” referring to a time when adults reckon with their own mortality and their remaining years of productive life.
The funny part of this ‘term’ is today it is not really recognized and most refer to this because of the coined phrase. Today my guest blogger did just that. She turned the phrase around and put it into a more positive context.
My question is have you gone thru what they called this midlife crisis or did you completely bypass it? Would love to hear from you today and see if you agree with today’s modern take on this.
Please Welcome ⇓, Karen with her wonderful smile and her take on a mid life crisis or mid life success! My Guest Blogger today is KD Forsman, from New Zealand, also known as Aotearoa ‘The land of the long white cloud.’ New Zealand is a well-known tourist destination and offers an amazing range of scenery, outdoor adventure activities, surfing, and beaches, as well as great shopping and diverse cities and towns.
Karen describes herself as an avid reader and freelance writer, and she published her debut fiction novel Fraud & Fabrication a few years ago. More recently, Karen has left her corporate role as a project manager to pursue a completely different career path.
Some might call this a midlife crisis, Karen calls it a midlife success.
Read on…and enjoy what is more than likely a new way to look and welcome what we call the mid life crisis. It is all about how we receive it or perhaps perceive it……Read on and enjoy as much as I did.
Mid life Crisis. I guess it happens to all of us.
On that front, we are all the same. How we cope with the changes to our bodies, our mindset and our general outlook on life, is another matter entirely.
One day I was your typical career woman, striving to climb the so called corporate ladder. The next, I had completely lost my mojo. You see, I’d always loved my job and striving to be the best I could be, but it was as though a switch had been flicked off in my head. My concentration levels were terrible, I was extremely forgetful and tired, not to mention a complete cow to live with.
At the time, I just thought I needed a holiday.
So my husband and I had a holiday. It didn’t help…………
Work was still a place I didn’t want to be, and my marriage was suffering its share of ups and downs as a direct result of my general state of unhappiness and mood swings. Long story short, I finally dragged my sorry self into my doctor, who confirmed that I was experiencing peri-menopause.
It’s funny how being told you’re in menopause can really sit you down on your backside. It made me reflect on just how short our time here on earth is. If we’re not doing what makes us truly happy and fulfilled… well, the clock is ticking and we’d better get on with finding that elusive something.
For me, it was the wakeup call that I needed.
It was time to have a good long hard look at my life. I spent the next six months convincing my husband that we needed to have an adventure now before we were too old, too tired, or even just too comfortable and complacent to do so.
So that’s what we did. We sold our home, we resigned from our safe, well-paying jobs, packed our bags and took a leap of faith into the unknown.
That leap took us hundreds of kilometers away from our family network, to a remote community on the West Coast of the South Island of New Zealand. The hustle and bustle of a busy city feel a lifetime away. We found, fell in love with and purchased a boutique motel called Omau Settlers Lodge, in a place called Cape Foulwind, our new home.
When we first moved, I had panic attacks.
I’d wake in the middle of the night and sit bolt upright in bed, wondering what on earth we’d done and what had possessed us to do something so downright irresponsible. Could it have been mid life crisis?
But you know what?
Although our income may not be quite as secure as it used to be, nor as much, it’s been one of the best things we’ve ever done as a couple. We are more connected than we’ve ever been, I’m calmer, more grounded, and finally, I’ve got time to appreciate the little things in life. In fact, I think I’m a kinder, nicer version of me.
Every day through the lodge, we meet wonderful people from all walks of life, no two days are the same. We are extremely privileged to be in a position to share our little piece of paradise with visitors to New Zealand who want to explore the untamed natural wilderness of the West Coast.
Another extremely satisfying outcome of making this move is that I have the time to focus on my writing, especially during the quiet winter months. I’ve always wanted to pursue a freelance writing career, and the changes we made at midlife have given me the opportunity and the extra motivation needed to do just that.
Oh, and as for my long-suffering husband, well he’s happy too. He gets to tell the same old Dad jokes to completely new audience every day AND he’s bought a fishing rod. One day, he might even catch a fish!
It wasn’t a midlife crisis after all. Midlife ended up being the best thing that ever happened.
I call it the midlife success.
Thank you immensely for sharing with us today Karen. Below you can see and read more of Karen and where she is at today.
Have you had an experience with a mid-life crisis you would like to share? Or maybe you skipped that phase. Either way, Karen and I would love to hear from you so, the keyboard is all yours and the comment box is just below.